EXCLUSIVE: 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way is in full swing and fans are discovering more and more about the cast’s unique relationships. This fall, Reality Tidbit catches up with an expert who breaks down the key red flags he saw coming for a couple. Licensed therapist Afton Turner details how she foresaw Tigerlily and Adnan’s fate.
The stars of TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé are no strangers to drama. But this October, Tigerlily’s stylist expresses some concerns about their tumultuous relationship. After meeting online, Tigerlily and Adnan got married the day they met. Their romance had a passionate start, but it seems that things could fizzle out if they continue in the same vein.
Therapist spots ‘red flags’ on 90 Day Fiancé
As Reality Tidbit catches up with Fresh Pages Therapy’s Afton this fall, she explains how a relationship “red flag isn’t just a bad habit or a minor disagreement. These are consistent behaviors or dynamics that undermine trust and respect.”
As the 90 Day Fiancé scenes with Tigerlily and Adnan unfold, Afton gives his opinion.
The expert analyzes the main warning signs she has seen so far.
First, Afton says the number one red flag is “isolation.”
She explains to Reality Tidbit, “When one partner discourages or prevents the other from spending time with friends, family, and other support systems, it’s a red flag.”
Afton adds: “One of the first rules Adnan made for Tigerlily is that she cannot be in a room with or touch any man, including a close friend who has traveled with her. “This restriction immediately begins to narrow your circle of support.”
However, Adnan was raised in a Muslim culture, and that’s likely where this comes from. While some dating gurus may suggest that certain behaviors may seem difficult in a new relationship, each couple will have to establish their own circumstances that they are happy with. Tigerlily knew this about her future husband and understood that it was the main reason why Adnan wanted to marry her on the first day they met in Jordan. Otherwise, they would not have been able to physically touch or interact with others if they had not done so.
Inconsistent or “hidden” expectations
Afton tells us how healthy relationships depend on clear and open communication.
“When one partner establishes confusing or constantly changing ‘rules’ that only the other must follow, it creates a feeling of imbalance and constant unrest,” he explains.
After analyzing Adnan and Tigerlily’s on-screen romance, Afton concludes, “This dynamic can be exhausting, leaving one partner feeling like he or she is always to blame or never ‘gets it right.'”
The Licensed Therapist notes how in the last episode, Tigerlily shared that since returning to the United States, Adnan has introduced more and more rules that apply only to her, while he doesn’t follow them or respect her own requests in return.
According to Afton, “…this one-sided setup creates a moving target that it can never reach, undermining its sense of stability and autonomy.”
Excessive jealousy or possessiveness.
Lastly, Afton mentions the “excessive jealousy” he sees in the relationship.
She tells us: “In the early episodes, Tigerlily seemed flattered when Adnan insisted that no other men be around her, taking this as a sign of how much he valued her.”
Afton explains that it’s “normal for some couples to feel occasional jealousy,” but “excessive possessiveness is a different story.”
The therapist discusses possessiveness and explains how “…it manifests as an intense need for control, constant reassurance, and monitoring of interactions, which makes the relationship feel restrictive.”
Referring to Adnan and Tigerlily, Afton says: “What began as seemingly flattering ‘protection’ may actually signal distrust, slowly undermining their independence. It may seem like a form of devotion, but when it becomes a rule rather than a preference, it creates an unbalanced dynamic that can undermine trust and autonomy.”
Since Tigerlily and Adnan’s drama forced him to visit the hospital with “respiratory issues,” it’s clear that the drama is becoming too much for the duo at times.
According to Afton, spotting these warning signs early helps maintain respectful, safe, and genuinely supportive relationships.
She tells Reality Tidbit: “Ignoring these signs can lead to cycles of emotional damage and a gradual erosion of self-esteem. Identifying them allows people to set boundaries, seek support, and make informed decisions about their relationships.”
The therapist concludes that healthy relationships are based on “trust, respect and equality.”
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